“If you don’t have a dream, how are you going make a dream come true?”
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​This very steep grand staircase was built to transfer building materials to build a dream.

Created by Spanish immigrant Jose Paronella. His dream was to build a castle inspired by the Catalonian castles, he built the castle and gardens for the pleasure and enjoyment of the public.

It was powered by its own hydroelectric plant and locals came from all around to see movies and eat ice cream, this was big at the time for the area and was a popular place in war time for our soldiers to enjoy.

I visited Paronella Park recently while on holiday in Queensland. It is now a ruin and the current owners are doing what they can to preserve and to continue Jose’s dream.

The story prompted me to think about the resilience of this man, an immigrant with a sense of purpose who would have met many challenges such as fire, storm and flood along the way.

He stuck at it.

So, what is required to strengthen our resilience?

Positive Emotion
Dialling up a positive outlook, practicing kindness, practicing gratitude and savouring the good times.
 
Engagement
Discovering and working with your strengths (the things you are good at and come easily to you.  Having a sense of curiosity and playfulness and being mindful.
 
Relationships
These have significant impact on our lives and ultimately what help us to feel loved, valued and supported.
 
Meaning
Having a sense of what we do is worthwhile and of value to something greater than ourselves.
 
Accomplishment
Setting achievable goals, maintaining grit to persevere and a growth mindset and embracing stress as an opportunity to learn and grow.
 
Health
Taking care of the physical self with exercise, nutrition and sleep.

Developing a strategy utilising these pillars of mental and physical wellbeing help us to build strength and resources to better deal with life’s twists and turns.
 
This is based on Professor Martin Seligman's foundations for wellbeing otherwise known as PERMAH.
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Wishing you Wellbeing
Regards
Leanne

My mind just doesn’t work. I have come to understand that when this happens I need to STOP and ASSESS what is actually going on for me. Usually, it’s that I have a million things going on in my mind and I am operating on overload.


It happened earlier this year when my dad had a serious accident. With any traumatic event, at the onset, it feels very overwhelming. In my experience I was flooded with concern for my dad, for my mum, for their business, for their welfare, for their mental health, their ability to understand the situation……….. the list goes on and on.


I was totally absorbed in taking care of the situation. As the eldest I also saw it as my responsibility to take care of the situation, not that it was, this was a self-imposed pressure.


As well as all of this, I was updating family on Dads progress and I was researching and investigating all that I could to help me understand the situation. I was going to work trying to show up to a stressful and demanding job.



When all of this is going on, something has to give and eventually it will.


I was at the hospital first thing in the morning to catch the Doctors, going to work and then going back to the hospital where I would stay until late. At work I was trying to find time to call services and felt a pressure in doing this being away from my desk and often on hold.


I was getting it done, but it was doing me in.


Here’s the thing, no one is immune to the affects of stress. The moment of realisation came for me after Dad was transferred to another hospital for recovery. As I was walking out of the ward two wardens were wheeling a deceased person toward me. I came face to face with the reality that we are not invincible.


My mind got busy with what ifs and a sadness for the family of that person. I caught myself out thinking this and felt like I had it under control. 


But I didn’t.


I got to the car and bawled my eyes out. I was exhausted, not taking care of my self properly and not listening to the messages that were arriving in me, like the bubbling of anxiety under my skin and in my chest, the inability to concentrate. Our minds are great at catastrophizing and mine was doing some of its best work.


Sometimes even the most prepared or “intune” person misses the message. And this is ok. Different things affect us in different ways.


Although I missed the message, the impact of the experience was less. With an understanding of what was going on for me. I took the time to assess my Body, Emotions and Thoughts. I then chose how I would Act next. This process is referred to as B.E.T.A.


I recognised what I was feeling in my body, I understood I was fatigued and I was emotional because my thinking was on auto pilot catastrophizing and this was a symptom of the stress.
 
when we take care of others we often don’t talk about how we are feeling, we stay strong for them and forget about ourselves. It’s what we do.


This is what I did next

• I reminded myself that what I was feeling was not permanent and posed the question to myself, What next?

 

• I was fatigued, I needed to get some proper sleep, a good one where I could just wake up when my body wanted to – so I did. I felt great and I felt like a whole new person that numbness and vagueness disappeared.

 

• Eat some good food, not take away. I don’t know about you? But I feel different when I am eating good nutritious food. I feel more alive. I had just been eating what ever I could which was often take away and at ridiculous times.

 

• I took a mental health day – I’m not ashamed to say it and my boss was most understanding. His understanding was appreciated as it took away the pressure of concern about work. It would still be there waiting for me and I found ways to work around and address the things I needed to do.

 

• Some time with my girlfriends was just what the Dr ordered and bloody good laugh. If you know me then you know how much I love a good laugh.

A word of caution on alcohol consumption. A few wines with friends turned me into a blubbering mess. Alcohol is a is a depressant, it stimulates the central nervous system. It is not a bandaid to lift our mood, in my case it heightened my emotions.
 
 
Through regular practice of mindfulness, I understood what was happening to my mind and body and I knew what would help me to get on the road to recovery. Mindfulness helps us to build an understanding of our thought processes in challenging times and an awareness of the stress we experience. With out this understanding I know the experience would have been much different.
 
It wasn’t too long before I felt like I was functional again. I just needed to be kind to myself.
 
How do you practice self care?


Wishing you wellbeing.
Leanne

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