Recently Australia was rocked by the unexpected, our beloved Australian Cricket team were caught red handed in the act of ball tampering.
We were shocked, we were disappointed, we were in disbelief.
We Australians love our cricket and we share a great sense of pride in our authenticity of our cricketers and what we have felt is a sense of betrayal and deep disappointment.
When our trust and values are compromised we are confronted by the wave of disappointment.
Betrayal can arrive in our relationships, our friendships, politics, our community, our work and as we have seen this week in even sport.
Often what comes after the initial shock, is our mind starts to play the scenario over and over and we can become fixated on the issue. Our brains are good at building a good story which distorts our view and the media and other people’s opinions tend to validate these assumptions.
Here are some things you can do to help overcome the feelings of this type of disappointment and view this disappointment in a more constructive way..
1.Be aware of what is going on for you, what thoughts and emotions are coming up for you and how you are feeling, acknowledge what has happened and the impact it has had.
2.Allow yourself to feel the feelings associated and understand why these feelings arise for you.
3.Draw on support from family, friends and co-workers. Talk it through, and about how you are feeling. It is good to feel heard but often talking to others we find we are not alone in how we feel.
4.Ask yourself, What now? How do you choose to respond now? How can you respond differently?
5.Forgive – the act of forgiveness is not forgetting or discounting what has happened. It’s acknowledging what has happened, dealing with it and choosing to respond in a way that does not weigh you down. It’s not condoning the act, rather accepting this has happened without placing blame. It is what it is. This can take time and requires some work, time and commitment to work it through.